Comments for Errant Ranter http://www.errantranter.com A few words about life. Ok, maybe more than a few words. Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:48:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 Comment on Inspiring the next generation by nutsmutt http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/08/inspiring-the-next-generation/comment-page-1/#comment-7 nutsmutt Sat, 09 Jun 2007 14:54:04 +0000 http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/08/inspiring-the-next-generation/#comment-7 Wow... list is quite extensive... but very good! and I completely agree with point number 17. I think most of the time when a person network, too much emphasis is placed into "what I can gain from this" attitude. With such an attitude in place, it does get across to people you meet, and usually, this will immediately create a very negative impact on any attempts to even make any sort of contacts. One good example I can cite and has witnessed, is the number of reliable contacts-friends that my partner has, and how these contacts usually come through for him when he needed help. He applied a simple rule of not treating a networking session as a "goldmine" for people he can make use of in future, but actually treating them as friends from the beginning, with his genuine offer of friendship. Also, he starts the ball rolling by offering help and coming through to the promised help. I think people remember such events better, and even if it's an urgent favour 10 years down the road, people would remember that you have helped out. And I think this would also help to create significance in your life. :) Wow… list is quite extensive… but very good! and I completely agree with point number 17. I think most of the time when a person network, too much emphasis is placed into “what I can gain from this” attitude. With such an attitude in place, it does get across to people you meet, and usually, this will immediately create a very negative impact on any attempts to even make any sort of contacts.

One good example I can cite and has witnessed, is the number of reliable contacts-friends that my partner has, and how these contacts usually come through for him when he needed help. He applied a simple rule of not treating a networking session as a “goldmine” for people he can make use of in future, but actually treating them as friends from the beginning, with his genuine offer of friendship. Also, he starts the ball rolling by offering help and coming through to the promised help. I think people remember such events better, and even if it’s an urgent favour 10 years down the road, people would remember that you have helped out. And I think this would also help to create significance in your life. :)

]]> Comment on Have you been wandering around listlessly? by Andrew Lange http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/04/have-you-been-wandering-around-listlessly/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Andrew Lange Fri, 08 Jun 2007 18:29:52 +0000 http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/04/have-you-been-wandering-around-listlessly/#comment-6 Thanks for catching the typo there for me. I haven't listened to GTD, but I've certainly picked my way through parts of the book, and it definitely makes it so much easier to concentrate on the tasks at hand when I have a defined structure for what needs to get done and when to do it. Thanks for stopping by! Thanks for catching the typo there for me. I haven’t listened to GTD, but I’ve certainly picked my way through parts of the book, and it definitely makes it so much easier to concentrate on the tasks at hand when I have a defined structure for what needs to get done and when to do it.

Thanks for stopping by!

]]> Comment on Have you been wandering around listlessly? by Dennis Wurster http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/04/have-you-been-wandering-around-listlessly/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Dennis Wurster Fri, 08 Jun 2007 16:32:31 +0000 http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/04/have-you-been-wandering-around-listlessly/#comment-5 I'm only trying to help, but I think you meant 'such' instead of 'suck' in the first paragraph. I've listed to the GTD audiobook twice in the past two years or so, and I think it's really changed the way I think about things to add a 'context' label to my tasks too. That way all of the 'things to do when I'm in the car', and the 'things to do when I'm near a phone', and the 'things I need to do online' tasks stay separate. I’m only trying to help, but I think you meant ’such’ instead of ’suck’ in the first paragraph.

I’ve listed to the GTD audiobook twice in the past two years or so, and I think it’s really changed the way I think about things to add a ‘context’ label to my tasks too. That way all of the ‘things to do when I’m in the car’, and the ‘things to do when I’m near a phone’, and the ‘things I need to do online’ tasks stay separate.

]]> Comment on How an introvert learns to network by Sherc http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/05/how-an-introvert-learns-to-network/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Sherc Fri, 08 Jun 2007 10:26:51 +0000 http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/06/how-an-introvert-learns-to-network/#comment-4 I have same problems as you, and I think it's made worse in Asian context where people are generally more reserved, and if start a conversation, people might think you strange. How I overcame my initial shyness nowadays is to just plunge right into it, do it a cold turkey way. The first initial hellos may lead to nowhere, but after a while, it would usually work itself out. I would meet people who from there would lead me to other contacts, and eventually some would even be great friends. But it's the first 2 that are the hardest. I think also because I'm a woman, it's less threatening when I speak up first. I think this is especially helpful when I speak up to another woman (where you can visibly see the expression of relief flashing across her face) or another guy. Also I learnt to back away when the conversation is leading nowhere. So anyway, network away! treat it as it's another party at someone's house? LOL I have same problems as you, and I think it’s made worse in Asian context where people are generally more reserved, and if start a conversation, people might think you strange.

How I overcame my initial shyness nowadays is to just plunge right into it, do it a cold turkey way. The first initial hellos may lead to nowhere, but after a while, it would usually work itself out. I would meet people who from there would lead me to other contacts, and eventually some would even be great friends. But it’s the first 2 that are the hardest. I think also because I’m a woman, it’s less threatening when I speak up first. I think this is especially helpful when I speak up to another woman (where you can visibly see the expression of relief flashing across her face) or another guy. Also I learnt to back away when the conversation is leading nowhere.

So anyway, network away! treat it as it’s another party at someone’s house? LOL

]]> Comment on Putting a hobby to work for you by Sherc http://www.errantranter.com/2007/06/02/putting-a-hobby-to-work-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3 Sherc Wed, 06 Jun 2007 12:55:24 +0000 http://www.errantranter.com/?p=4#comment-3 Hiking! that is definitely something I like.. I can think of another as well: Photography... you're pretty good at that :) Hiking + photography is a good combi... it's no wonder I like hiking too. Really miss those hiking trips in Oz :) Hiking! that is definitely something I like.. I can think of another as well: Photography… you’re pretty good at that :)

Hiking + photography is a good combi… it’s no wonder I like hiking too. Really miss those hiking trips in Oz :)

]]> Comment on Hello world! by Gert http://www.errantranter.com/2007/05/31/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-2 Gert Sun, 03 Jun 2007 13:23:45 +0000 #comment-2 Good Luck! ;) Good Luck! ;)

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